Tuesday, April 7, 2009
The Comfort Friend
The "Comfort" friend is the person you call when you are feeling maybe a little lonely for family, a little nostalgic, a little down on your luck. She keeps you from drowning in self-pity by reminding you of the good things in life, but she won't smack you in the face with it and make you fix everything like the "Get Off Your Ass" friend might. She'll go to your favorite pizza place or that diner that serves those "hot beef sandwiches" with the gravy and mashed potatoes. You can call her to go to a romantic movie that your guy wouldn't be caught dead in, or would go to but would mock all the way home. She will give you wine and chocolate, but not in so much excess as the "Party" friend will. She will chat about the book with the good ending or shop for practical things. She will remember all the cool stuff you did with your kids and remind you how competent he is when your first goes off to college and you are so lonesome for him you can't think straight. She will remind you that he felt comfortable going to school many states away because YOU raised him to be that wonderful. She will look at your photos of the trip you took with the kids and say nice things about the destination and the kids. She'll go to the conservatory with you to see green things in winter and to the cool dark air conditioned movie theater in the heat of summer. She'll keep you in the middle, not forcing you into happy happy land, but not letting you sink to the inky depths of icy despair either. When you spend some time together, she will cause you to drive home content that life really is good in the ways that really matter.